“Golden Coins”

“Golden Coins”

December 5, 2013
by Philip P. Grous

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Time to start cashing in some of those Golden Coins from my memory bank.  I watched a beautiful show tonight, “The Sound of Music Live!”, a live 3 hour performance on NBC.  I was really impressed by the great production and performances.  I know Mom would have loved it too.  As I watched and enjoyed the show, I realized that, all of the beautiful moments that we ever had, we shared them together.  It would have been great if we could have watched it together tonight.

Then I recalled what I said in “Precious Tears”.  When things get a little tough or I feel sad about her not being here, I need to recall the good times that she enjoyed.  That is what adds value to those Golden Coins.

The was so lucky (no, I don’t mean at the Casino) but she was lucky there too.  She had a very enjoyable and satisfying life [Coin].  She loved traveling around our country; both on my business trips and on vacations [Coin].  Maybe not the camping trips too much.  Day or night trips to AC and Chester, [Coin] and she didn’t even know about the Great Lottery Ticket scratch-off at her luncheon or the family Memorial trip to Harrah’s afterward in her honor.  Then there were the cruises [Coins], the trips to colleges, trips to Florida and Massachusetts [more Coins].  Vacations to the Shore and elsewhere.  They were great.  She even liked it at work where she was really the background boss according to her old boss, John Gahagan [Coin].  She was the go-to-person for soft pretzels, group lottery tickets and office pools.  She liked her co-workers and she was very good at her job [Coin].

But most of all, she enjoyed her children (and her grandchildren even more) [Coins].  A sad thing though is that she didn’t get to see how you rallied together and around me too in our very darkest hours.  She would be so proud of you. [Coins]  She did a great job.

There is so much more.  She enjoyed thirteen years of comfortable retirement, doing whatever she wanted whenever she wanted.  Friday night Bingo. [Coin]  She had many good friends and neighbors who all enjoyed each other.  Evidence of that is the large attendance at her viewing and Mass. [Coin]

Oh, and she loved a game of cards with a little money on the line.  We often played with the Guims until late at night and once she even played Pinochle with her family all the way through the night until the next morning. [Coin]  A trip to Florida was never complete without a few sessions of Contract Rummy (but not #2).  She helped start the Neighbors’ Game Group and tried to get the Senior Citizens interested in playing games at our meetings. [Coin]

So, that’s a lot of Coins that I cashed in.  I hope there are a lot more left in my Bank because I’ll probably need them in the future.  You know, it really does help ease some of those Precious Tears.

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“Precious Tears”

“Precious Tears”

November 21, 2013
by Philip P. Grous
Read during Florence’s internment ceremony on November 26, 2013

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As we prepare ourselves, physically and emotionally, to take Florence to her new home, we recall that we have shed many tears over the past two months.

e were concerned about her periodic “crying” episodes when she would almost come to tears for no apparent reason while talking with someone.  There were a few excited tears of happiness when she emerged from her hip surgery with a new vigor to continue on with the rest of her life.  We cried a river of tears in Kennedy Hospital with each new piece of discouraging news from the physicians or every sign of her discomfort.  We celebrated her 76th Birthday at her bedside, but the words to the Birthday Song were particularly difficult to utter.  There were community tears when some of the dedicated nurses came into her room and cried with us.  Even Hospital administrators were touched by our closeness as a family looking out for our Mom and Wife.

There have been good times in the past too.  When we were just newlywed, we went to Strawbridge & Clothier to buy our furniture.  They weren’t exactly tears, but rather shock as we took on our first “large” debt, over $600 for the furniture.  But what a joy!  We were on our way to actually setting up house.

There were anxieties too when each of our four children were born.  So happy to have them, but would we be able to handle it?  We were excited about their futures, and our job together as parents.

The good times were repeated often when we traveled around the country and sailed on our Caribbean cruises.  She enjoyed her family gatherings, the children, our friends, and especially her grandchildren and great-grandchildren.  She would call them on the phone, or they would call her, and she actually had long conversations with them.  She was fond of a little “gaming” too (see her frequent trips to Harrah’s in Chester or Borgata in Atlantic City).  Her favorite trip of all was to Las Vegas, where she could play all night.  And she was always looking for a good card game where she could win a few dollars.

Think of each of those tears as Golden Coins and deposit them in your Memory Bank.  Then, when you feel a little sad about Florence, cash in a few of those Golden Coins to bring back some of the precious memories.

 

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